How To Organize Your Emotions
After
hearing some elders discredit focusing on self. I was more driven to self-mastery.
As I sat and listened to them, I listened to that inner voice, letting me know
that it is vital to master self. Once I started to study the subject, I learned
to master myself and why it is essential. To achieve what I will write about, mastering
yourself is crucial. The two go hand and hand, so follow me as I discuss
something many may not realize is possible. As an organizer, people assume I will
come to your home and show you where your shoes go. I mean, I can, but my work
runs so much deeper than that. I can help you organize your space; I can help
you organize goals; I can help you organize and manage your time, but I also
help with soul organization.
Imagine
going on a vacation to return home, leaving all the suitcases in the corner
filled with clothes. Finally, you decide to unpack, so you open up the bag and
begin to unpack one thing at a time, choosing the very thing on top until you
work your way to the bottom. The more you unpack and place things where they
belong, the lighter the bag gets, right? Use this same technique with our
emotions to process them. Sometimes out of nowhere, I will get a weird feeling.
I would pause a moment to understand what is taking place and where it came
from, journal it out to release it, and meditate to understand the root. That’s
my way of unpacking. Understanding brings about healing we miss out on because
we choose to stuff things and put them away. Our souls need organizing because
they are cluttered. Clutter has a list of detrimental effects, be it your space
or your soul. If a cluttered office can bring on anxiety, can you imagine what
your soul is going through?
Our
emotions affect our behavior. Sometimes getting to the root of emotions means tracing
the lie that we believe caused the feeling. Emotions influence our logic and
productivity. I recall finding out a guy I was dating was seeing someone else
the entire time. Upon discovering that information, I lost the momentum to
complete my daily task. As hard as I tried to focus, emotionally, I was all
over the place. I had to dump in my journal 20 minutes at a time for at least three
days to gain control that I had lost. That incident also revealed his thought
process as well and how dark, emotionally, he was. Emotions determine how we
treat others and can continue unhealthy cycles. When we do not heal, we create
an identity to cover who we are. These ways are usually harmful, and that my
friend becomes a generational problem. Take stock of your emotions
and why you feel them. Master them, do not let them master you.
My
emotions mastered me for years. I was going to work early one morning. My mind cluttered
with yesterday’s feelings that I failed to see any of the traffic lights being
red. Before I knew it, I was at my destination and receiving tickets in the
mail because I ran several lights. Autopilot is not the way. I was not mindful,
and I paid for it, literally. It could have been worse because I could have
caused an accident. At the time, I self-medicated with a ministry. I had my
hands in a lot after being told I was unfaithful because I needed a break. There
is an expectation to work and not heal in the church, which is why the majority
leaks from broken glasses. I tried running several times, but I was
labeled. I knew I needed help, and I tried to voice that, but my internal
sufferings were minimized. I understand when people do not know they do not
know. I discovered the healing and doing inner work via a dream and connecting
with people via social media. Those connections have changed my life.
Therapy
can help with managing emotions. Find someone who specialized in cognitive
behavioral therapy (CBT). This information allowed me to grow as a person. I
even purchased books and studied this modality further. Now I am certified
in CBT and helping others in ways I did not have. I also journal.
Whenever there are nagging emotions taking place, I unplug to write it down and
identify the source. My dreams have even shown me my responses to situations
and helped to trace where it originated. A lot of my problems traced to my
childhood and not being affirmed. For a long time, I believed the lie that I
was not worthy, and I should have been thrown out like the Wednesday trash.
This belief system showed up in every part of my life until I healed.
Want to organize your emotions? Start with these simple steps:
1. List problems or
worries. Writing eases anxiety.
2. Discover if it is a
pattern. Is this feeling necessary, or is it controlling
you? Emotions drive behavior, so check them often. When emotions are
exaggerated, they become the reason we are stuck and unable to progress. Fear
exaggerated is called a phobia.
3. Check common
distortions at the door: Over-generalization, one lousy situation means every
situation will be this way. All-or-nothing thinking, there is no middle ground.
It must be perfect, or it’s a failure. Mental filtering, continually focusing
on the negative, filtering out the positive, jumping to conclusions, assuming
how someone feels about you.
4. Purchase a journal
and use it daily: Identify emotions, discover what you can change, track your
changes.
Journal Prompt Questions
What
happened?
Identify
the trigger.
What
emotion did you feel?
What
were your exact thoughts?
How
did you react?
Could
you, your thoughts, your thoughts, or your behavior have been different?
How
can you create new thoughts or behaviors for the future?
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